Do you remember writing notes about very. important. things. to your friends or crushes in middle school? I had journals with my best friends that we passed back and forth in high school. I have boxes of letters from my best friends from elementary onward. Writing was .... is... the "safe" way of communicating. It's safe because you don't have to feel the rejection immediately, and it's safe because you get time and space to carefully craft your thoughts without stumbling over words and facing someone's immediate reactions. Those journals and letters are spackled with crossed out words - and torn edges where the words were just wrong and I threw them away. Time and space are amazing gifts when it comes to my heart.